We had this conversation yesterday and I felt compelled to put it into panels. I’m sure every parent has had this type of conversation with their child.
So… what was the lesson of the day? You can’t rationalize with a toddler.
This is exactly why you don’t say “No” unless she is doing something that will hurt herself/others. Try this next time:- Give her an option of picking 1 of 2 things that you want her to do. Let her choose. If she gets to pick something, she will feel like she is in control, and by limiting her options, you are able to direct her to what you want her to do. Both the options don;t have to be equal. “Do you want to listen to music or go to your room?” Sure, she will probably listen to music, but it makes her feel that she made the choice.
Keep in mind that you have to pick 2 things that you don’t mind her picking.
“You want paratha or icecream”
“Icecream”
“No you can;t have ice cream. First have paratha, then have ice cream”
Don’t do this!! This will teach her that what she chooses doesn’t matter and she will stop playing. If you gave her 2 choices, and she picked one you didn’t like, bop yourself and move on.
this is soooooo Sonu
I’m surprised she didn’t ask “Why?”
This is exactly why you don’t say “No” unless she is doing something that will hurt herself/others. Try this next time:- Give her an option of picking 1 of 2 things that you want her to do. Let her choose. If she gets to pick something, she will feel like she is in control, and by limiting her options, you are able to direct her to what you want her to do. Both the options don;t have to be equal. “Do you want to listen to music or go to your room?” Sure, she will probably listen to music, but it makes her feel that she made the choice.
Keep in mind that you have to pick 2 things that you don’t mind her picking.
“You want paratha or icecream”
“Icecream”
“No you can;t have ice cream. First have paratha, then have ice cream”
Don’t do this!! This will teach her that what she chooses doesn’t matter and she will stop playing. If you gave her 2 choices, and she picked one you didn’t like, bop yourself and move on.
Has it really been three years already? Time flies!
I had that conversation a couple of times today myself.